Relationship Therapy

Individual and Couple Psychotherapist

Couples seek out relationship therapy for many reasons. Some couples are in a high state of distress - other couples might wish to explore issues that they feel are impacting communication and closeness in an otherwise secure relationship.     Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples is a powerful model for change and supports couples at any stage of their relationship.


Dr. Susan Johnson, a recognized leader in her field, co-developed Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).  This research-based relationship therapy is considered the most effective therapeutic intervention for couples. Dr Johnson is the founder of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy and a noted author, researcher and clinical educator.  I have trained directly with Dr. Johnson and I am currently the only Certified EFT therapist in Guelph.  


Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) assists couples in understanding and exploring the emotional interactions that can lead to relationship distress. EFT is highly successful because it strengthens relationships by creating enhanced communication and a deeper sense of connection.  

  

A significant body of research demonstrating the effectiveness of EFT currently establishes it as a leading model of intervention for distressed couples.  Research indicates that 70 to 75% of couples in EFT therapy shift from distress to recovery and 90% of couples report significant and meaningful improvement.  The process is both respectful and collaborative.  Strategies for change are clearly explored and each partner's emotional experience of the relationship is supported.  This leads to a deepening sense of understanding and connection.  As well, my training in sex therapy further assists couples who are concerned about physical and sexual intimacy.


It is worth noting that success in relationship therapy can be impacted by different factors.  For example, it is important that each partner has some capacity for self-awareness and some ability to take personal ownership for their behaviour.  It is also important that each partner has the emotional resources helpful to maintaining a relationship.   As well, a level of commitment to the relationship ultimately impacts success.  Although, many individuals who question their commitment are gratified to see their uncertainty change as the interactions and emotional responses improve between the couple and a secure bond is rebuilt.


Dr. Susan Johnson writes that "learning how to nurture the bonds of love is an urgent task. Loving connection provides the dependable web of intimacy that allows us to cope with life and to live well. And that is what gives our life meaning."


It is with this thought in mind that I encourage anyone who is concerned about their relationship or those who might wish to deepen their connection to their partner, to seriously consider Emotionally Focused Therapy as a way of strengthening their connection to those they love.

Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples

lift me like an olive branch

be my homeward dove

dance me

to the end of love

~ Leonard Cohen